There’s a small window of time every year between making New Year resolutions and letting them slip.
Certainly there are people who make resolutions and really stick to them, creating positive changes in their lives; getting rid of troublesome or damaging habits like smoking or overeating; getting fit enough to run a marathon or whatever goal is important to them.
However, for each of these people there are probably a couple of hundred who make resolutions, only to find that they only last until the phrase ‘Happy New Year’ has stopped being part of every greeting.
If you really want to make a difference in your life, then you can – no matter what time of year it might be. New Year is just a convenient milestone in the calendar!
One way that I’ve found helpful is not to call your resolution a New Year’s resolution at all, but to call it something else, such as ‘this year’s goal’ or maybe say to yourself something like ‘by such and such date I will weigh…’
You might think that such actions aren’t going to make any difference to whether or not you succeed, but I can assure you that there’s a part of your mind that listens to and acts upon whatever it ‘hears’, so telling yourself something – and repeating it often – can have some very positive effects!
Of course, you still need willpower and you still need to be able to focus on what you want to achieve, and that can be very tough indeed.
That’s where hypnotherapy can be a real help.
A couple of sessions of hypnotherapy, coupled with your own wish to make positive changes, can create the right mindset in you, so that you can stick to your resolutions and reach your goals more easily.
If you want to know more about hypnotherapy and how it can help you, email firstname.lastname@example.org
Or you can make a booking for our Wednesday clinic at Chichester Chiropractic Health Centre (chichesterchiropractor.co.uk)
Happy New You.
Depression is a huge and growing problem. indeed, you may have been affected yourself, or know someone who suffers from it.
But what IS depression? After all, the word ‘depression’ doesn’t really tell you much. Weather forecasters talk about ‘depression over the Atlantic’ or whatever and we know what they mean by that phrase, but what about when the word is applied to someone who has gone to their GP complaining about being tired and listless all the time? Or when someone just finds talking to others to be hard to cope with? What do we really understand about the condition called depression?
Getting a handle on what depression really is, and where it might stem from is a big first step in getting well again.
The old name for depression is maybe more helpful; nervous exhaustion was the term used until quite recently, and perhaps we should think about depression in those terms; a tiredness of, or stemming from the nervous system.
In most cases of depression, one of the main symptoms is tiredness, even exhaustion. There can be a feeling of hopelessness or ‘flatness’. Sometimes people suffer physical symptoms too and almost universally sufferers report that they spend time and energy worrying.
So what can hypnotherapy do to help?
First and foremost, hypnotherapy; and particularly hypnotherapy combined with coaching or counselling, gives the sufferer a chance to talk through how they feel with someone who won’t judge, and who really understands what’s going on.
Secondly, hypnotherapy allows the sufferer to focus on practical things that will help ease the condition; things like better regulated sleep and deeper relaxation which improve energy levels.
Of course, depression is a complex condition, and every person who has ever felt or been diagnosed as having depression experiences something different, so what will work for one person may have the exact opposite effect for another. That’s why working with a hypnotherapist and coach is often more successful that other treatments, as the therapist is able to be flexible in their approach, and find the best way forward for the client rather than simply relying on one method or one course of action.
If you would like to know more about treating depression through hypnotherapy and coaching, please feel free to call or email for a no-obligation chat.
I’m delighted to let you know that we will now be running a new clinic in central Chichester. We currently have appointments on Wednesdays, between 10.00 and 6.00, but if that’s not convenient other times and days are often possible.
The address is: Chichester Chiropractic Health Centre, 38 Southgate, Chichester, PO19 1DP
Our phone number remains unchanged, as does our email address, so please call or email with any enquiries or to book an appointment.
As ever, we are happy to arrange a home visit for you if that’s more suited to your needs. Again, just call and we’ll make the arrangements.
The chances are that we all know someone with depression, whether we know it or not. Around 1 in 5 older people will be experiencing some sort of depression or mental health problem and women are more likely to seek treatment than men.
Depression is an illness. However it is impossible to tell whether someone has depression just by looking at them and often sufferers will choose to keep the illness to themselves due to fear of being stigmatised.
It may be that someone you love or care for deeply suffers from depression themselves and perhaps they have shared with you their feelings and diagnosis. If you have never experienced depression yourself it can be hard to know how to react or what to do to help them. So, how to support someone with depression? Below are just a few suggestions, which can help you to support your loved one.
Create a calm environment
To someone with depression, keeping on top of the routine chores can become overwhelming. Simple things such as keeping on top of washing and tidying can seem like a mammoth task and yet clutter or mess can create frustrations. Helping to keep on top of these things can be a big help in making them feel more relaxed and comfortable.
Depression can suppress the appetite, or it can cause the person to want to overeat and eat foods that are not providing the essential nutrients. Helping to prepare simple, healthy, balanced meals can help keep the body and mind as healthy as possible. Mood boosting foods such as seeds and nuts make good snacks.
I have deliberately not used the term exercise as the thought of physical activity can be very daunting to someone suffering with depression however being outside in the fresh air and sunshine, even if just sitting on a seat and reading can help lift the mood. Light exercise begins to release Serotonin and dopamine (or the ‘good mood’ hormones). Even a small amount of fresh air and exercise can help your loved on to feel a little better.
Speak to them
Talking to your loved one can help alleviate the feelings of loneliness that depressed people often feel. It may help them to tell you in their own words how they are feeling and help you gain a better understanding of their situation.
Encourage them to love themselves
Often when suffering from depression, people stop looking after themselves. Personal hygiene begins to suffer as they may feel worthless to others let alone themselves. Encourage them to care for themselves, run them a bath and help them to organise hair cuts, dental appointments which may make them feel more comfortable and confident.
A simple hug
A genuine hug lasting over 20 seconds can release feel good chemicals in the brain. Often depressed people lack desire for intimacy but a genuine hug can make them feel better.
Share a joke
Laughing released endorphins and watching a funny movie or comedian together or even just sharing a joke can help relieve the symptoms of depression or anxiety.
Reassure your loved one that you will not be scared away by their illness. Often there is a fear that those they love will leave them due to their illness, which makes the depression worse. Remind them of the good things they have accomplished and how much you love them as depression causes negative, painful and destructive thoughts.
Most of all remind them why you love them, remember the good times you have shared and reassure them that you can get through this together.
So here we are in 2014, a brand new year with so much opportunity for development and improvement.
How many of us make ‘New Year’s Resolutions’? Around half of us set ourselves goals at this time of year: we will eat less, stop smoking, go to the gym… and yet how often does January turn to February and we realize that our resolutions have already fallen by the wayside?
So why do New Year’s Resolutions have a failure rate in the region of 88%?
A resolution is essentially a decision we make to change some behaviour or other that we don’t like about ourselves, and for that decision to stick, we require a change of thinking and rebooting of the subconscious. In other words, we have to change our habits, and anyone who has tried to break a bad habit by willpower alone will know how hard that can be. We often need something more – a helping hand or perhaps an understanding of the negative effects of NOT changing the habit.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t set yourself some goals for improvement and development in your life for 2014, just be aware that if you call these goals ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ you may find that, once it stops being New Year, and it’s just plain old 2104, your resolutions may not seem so pressing or attractive to you.
Ways to help improve the success of resolutions include:
– Telling yourself you are making resolutions for 2014 – that’s the whole of 2014, not just New Year!
– Setting realistic and measurable goals. Aim to lose 2lb a week rather than setting a goal of losing 30lb with no time frame.
– Letting someone else know your goals; someone who will support you.
– Celebrate success along the way.
– Focus on the benefits of the resolution rather than the effect. i.e. focus on how good you will feel if you take a little regular exercise rather than how bad you’ll feel if you don’t lose the weight
– Create new, good habits to replace the old, bad habits.
– Be kind to yourself. A small slip is not the end of the world.
Perhaps most importantly try not to think of New Year Resolutions at all. Think of positive life changes. By February, we are no longer in the New Year frame of mind and it is easy to see how a resolution may fail so quickly. Set goals now to achieve by the end of the year and look at beginning 2015 feeling incredible!
Hypnotherapy and Coaching can be invaluable in helping you to identify your goals and to give you the tools to stay motivated and on track to achieving them. Whatever you hope to achieve this year, do give me a call and start making the changes today.
Another question often asked is “does hypnotherapy work?”. Of course it is possible to ask someone who has had hypnotherapy whether it has worked for them but is there any scientific evidence for the effectiveness of hypnotherapy? The pdf you can view by clicking the link below has been produced by Mark Tyrell for Uncommon Knowledge and it gives an insight in to some of the research that has been carried out on the effects of hypnosis.
It is almost certain that you know someone with depression. You may not know who they are and yet figures from the Office for National Statistics show that nearly one fifth of adults in the UK experience some form of anxiety or depression. Perhaps you yourself have been diagnosed with depression or maybe you have feelings that you can’t explain but which make you feel out of sorts, tired, emotional or angry.
But what does depression feel like? If you have never experienced depression, you may find it hard to understand why perhaps someone you know is occasionally withdrawn, perhaps snappy from time to time, not wanting to go out or take part in activities they usually enjoy. Depression is not like physical injury. If someone breaks an arm or a leg, there is a visible plaster cast or even an operation. It is possible to imagine what that pain might feel like. We have all experienced physical pain at some point in our lives. We might not have broken an arm but we may have trapped a finger in a door and we can imagine how we think the pain might compare.
How does someone with depression feel? This video produced by The World Health Organisation gives you a very good insight into the world of someone experiencing depression.
Studies have revealed that prolonged use of antidepressants can actually worsen the symptoms they have been prescribed to relieve. Although people with depression can find it hard to talk about how they are feeling, it is often the case that by speaking to a suitably experienced practitioner, over time the feelings of anxiety or depression become more manageable and have less of a negative impact on their life. I am trained in both CBT and NLP and have successfully used these techniques combined with hypnotherapy to help people with anxiety and/or depression to feel more in control and more positive and in one recent case to finally come off antidepressants after nine full years on medication.
I offer a completely confidential service and I am very happy to have a no-obligation chat with anyone who feels that they may be experiencing any form of depression or anxiety to discuss how I can help. If you would like to talk with me about this, please do call 01243 251627 or 07778 287119.
The news this week has featured Jonathan Trott, the English Cricketer who has returned home from Australia due to a stress related condition.
What is stress? Stress is the body’s response to pressures and influences that we feel we can’t cope with. Sometimes, the body subconsciously triggers a set of responses to stress going back to our fight or flight instinct – increased heart rate, sweating, faster breathing, heightened immune system, heightened sense of alertness. In the short term these responses present no lasting problem and go away and are forgotten about.
For some people, the body takes these responses to another level resulting in more serious long term health concerns such as heart conditions, Gastrointestinal disease, headaches,Globus Hystericus, depression etc. As the responses are triggered at a subconscious level, it is not possible to eradicate them simply by taking a painkiller or a day off work, which may help reduce the symptoms but will not begin to touch the cause.
It stands to reason that as the subconscious mind creates the condition, the route to relieving the problem long term also lies within the subconscious. Sadly Doctors these days often prescribe antidepressants, which is a little like sticking a plaster over an infected wound. Eventually the problem will reoccur further down the line, possible months, possibly years but without treating the underlying cause it will still be there.
At Sussex Hypnotherapy and Coaching, we take a look at life as a whole and then narrow down the areas which are causing stress and anxiety and then we work with you using various coaching techniques to explore these areas, to help you to find ways of dealing with them in a constructive way and finally using gentle and relaxing hypnotic inductions we work with your subconscious to encourage it to stop the harmful responses it is generating.
If you would like to discuss stress, anxiety and how we can help you, please do give me a call in confidence on 01243 251627 or 07778 287119
I am often asked “what does hypnosis feel like?” and people are often wary of hypnosis as they feel that they may be asked to perform acts that they do not have any control of. The truth is, hypnosis is very relaxing and you are in full control the whole time. I have produced a free, 12 minute relaxation session that you are welcome to try. Just make sure that you are in a comfortable place and unlikely to be disturbed when you listed to this recording. Needless to say, don’t attempt to listen to this while driving! Simply click on the link below to play on your computer:
If you would like to download this to a mobile device, you can download it, again free of charge here by simply entering your contact details:
A normal reaction to an unpleasant, painful or upsetting stimulus is for a person to remove themselves from whatever is causing the physical or emotional discomfort. In a one off situation, we may do this without even thinking about it and carry on with our lives totally unaffected by it.
What happens though if someone is exposed to repeated and unpredictable episodes of unpleasant experiences? For some people the response over time is to begin to accept the negative influences and rather than seeking change to begin to just accept the pain, discomfort or distress as normal, believing that they have no influence over the events and circumstances and therefore there is no point trying.
This learned helplessness (first discovered in 1965 by Psychologist Martin Seligman) can lead to feelings of lack of self worth, lack of confidence and depression. With coaching, we can help people to identify learned helplessness, the factors which may have contributed to it and work on ways to restore confidence, self esteem and feelings of self control.
If you would like to discuss learned helplessness or if you have any questions about how coaching and hypnotherapy may help you, please do give me a call in complete confidence on 01243 251627 or 07778 287119